“We are not meant to self-optimize while the world is on fire…This is a thing I’m thinking about constantly these days, about how obviously broken it is to continue to believe that if we fix ourselves in an aspirational way — if we self-optimize — we will fix what’s broken…

CW: sexual assault, domestic violence, narcissistic abuse Taking up space doesn’t come naturally to me. As a child I learned that being pleasing, thin, pretty, high-performing, and easygoing would get me approval from adults. …

Hint: it’s not you. I’m usually not the type of coach who offers “tough love,” but today I’ve got a bit for you: When you buy into the lie that if only you could make yourself *this much better*, everything would be easier, who ultimately benefits? Those who are getting…

Have you ever felt like you’ve lost yourself? Maybe it was because work took over your life, or you were in a toxic relationship, or the intensity of our times was just too much. The messed up thing, though, is that the standard advice we get about “finding ourselves” centers…

Whether you’re a high-integrity human with a 9-to-5 or a purpose-driven entrepreneur who wants to grow your business sustainably and in alignment with your values, this post is for you. I was so excited to chat with my friend Brooke Monaghan the other day about the power of taking up…

I spent my 20s trying to “self-improve” my way through jobs that looked great on the outside but made me feel like shit. My “dream career” in politics was actually pretty nightmarish. In a move that I thought would save me, I trained as a yoga teacher and got gigs…

For a lot of us, an undercurrent of work anxiety permeates our days off, making it impossible to fully relax and enjoy life outside the office, store, or wherever you show up to make money. No matter how passionate you are about what you do, everyone can hit a wall…

Have you ever wanted to change your mind, but kept talking yourself out of it? That’s where I was over the weekend, facing a decision-point about the next two months of my work. I’ve been fine-tuning the practices, tools, and information that I share in Take Up Space for a…

One of the most powerful tools I’ve got for speaking up, setting boundaries, and building my self-trust is this 6-word phrase: “Let me get back to you.” Someone’s asking me to do them a “quick favor” and I’m feeling that internal pressure to say yes (hello, recovering people-pleaser here!)? “Let…